I was born a woman. I want to be what I was created to be. A woman. The reason I am blogging on this subject is because I have studied for a very long time just what that entails.
I have two sons. The first one was 6 months old when we moved to New Orleans. We lived in an apartment complex next door to another young couple with a little girl exactly 1 day older than our son. I had determined that I would not stereotype my son and included dolls and age appropriate play dishes in his toy box. He did not play with these toys, but the little neighbor girl liked them when she came over.
I was particularly struck one day when they each had a doll. Little Kimberly was cradling hers as she toddled along. My son had his by the foot dragging its head on the ground. I thought about that for days. Boys and girls were definitely different even at the tender age of 12 months. There was an instinctual psychological nurturing reflex in this little girl that was simply not evident in my son.
He loved balls. Any kind of ball. By the time he was 18 months old, he could identify balls. Footballs, golf balls, basket balls, baseballs. His first word was ‘ball’, much to his mother’s chagrin. You wait and coax and long to hear ‘mama’. What I got was “baa’ as he held one of his balls up and then promptly threw it across the room.
Somehow, I feel the need to reassure that I am not going for unisex or transgender. That is not the point of this at all. There are both physiological and psychological differences between men and women and they are good because YHVH designed it that way.
It is said that if you take the actual genetic makeup of men and women, the difference of the one pair of chromosomes that determine sex constitutes only a 4% difference in the entire genetic code. But, what this sets in motion as human beings mature into either male or female, becomes the fodder for books with titles like Women are from Venus, Men are from Mars, clearly delineating the vast differences.
What we do with these differences is the key. Do we try to see how we fit together and make each other better by incorporating the differences? Or do we tear down the opposite sex because they are not like us, implying that there is something bad or wrong with them just because they are the opposite sex?
The Body of Messiah has failed to remain faithful to YHVH’s original design by introducing extra biblical ideas and beliefs into the gender issue, thereby setting the stage for dehumanization, inequality, and injustice.
There are no two identical human beings on the planet, be they two men, two women, or a man and a woman. We were all created for a purpose with a plan for living that purpose out. We must be able to work together, to try to understand the blessing of other than ourselves, and respect the beauty of maleness or femaleness as it is the original building block of relationship between humans.